Hey, my name is Tobi, and I have been dating a…

Hey, my name is Tobi, and I have been dating a gray-ace male for a year now. I'm finding that I myself am having a hard time understanding what I 'want' as far as sex. Its like my mind and body never really agree and always fight. Like my mind will say yes, and that it sounds good, and my body will say no it doesn't want to. It also occurs that my body says yes, but my mind says fuck no. I'm just not sure where I fit or what to do.

Hey, sorry for the (super) late response. Have you looked into 

Autochorissexuality/Aegosexual? It’s The disconnection between oneself and the target or object of arousal. May involve sexual fantasies or arousal in response to erotica or pornography, but lacking any desire to be a participant in the sexual activities.

Here’s a link to a blog post talking about it