So, I had this friend. He would constantly crush on me even though I had told him I was ace and had no interest in dating. He would say he understood and respected that. However his other friend, who is an ace guy, he would constantly call him gay for not being a perv. He apparently said asexuality was for girls only. That's not respecting or understanding at all, is it? Is that anti ace?
Get rid of this guy. He feeds into the sexist stereotype that all men are sex driven and mindless and you deserve better people to surround yourself with. And yes, this is very aphobic.