Ugh. Lately I've been wanting to come out to my family that I'm asexual, but I can't tell how they would react and don't know how to do it.
Try to bring up the topic of LGBTQIA+ and asexual without directly saying you’re ace. Maybe get there by talking about a character from a book or a show (doesn’t even have to be an ace on, you can talk about queer people and then go “and then there are orientations that even fewer people know about like asexual for example” and go from there). That way you’ll know how they feel about it in general, though it can’t tell you how exactly they’ll react to you being ace.
If it goes well and you think they’re fine with it you can just go on with coming out to them right after that. If you think they’re gonna react badly and hurt you in any way (and yes emotionally counts) you probably shouldn’t tell them… maybe try and educate them more before actually telling them.
Or throw books with ace characters at them and see how they like them. That works pretty well for me because often the book also explains what ace means so you don’t have to do it.
– Mod Fiona