another thing that affects aros, particularly those who don’t seek any kind of partnership, is the inability to ‘grow up’. both aros and aces are already infantilised but many traditional life goals are inaccessible
an aro person might never get married. they might never be able to afford to live on their own, and won’t have a single consistent person to move in with. as well as just not having a partner to navigate the more difficult and terrifying aspects of life with, aromantic people may never be able to get out of their 20s.
#this is something i feel a lot#maybe not so much the housing part#because that’s in the future#but just feeling like i’ll always be a kid#‘cuz those parts of my identity#don’t just stop at relationships#can’t enjoy most adult shows ‘cuz they have the tendency to rely on sexual content and romance?#guess i’ll stick with cartoons which are viewed as childish#find sex icky? how childish#find romance directed at you disgusting? are you afraid you’ll catch cooties?#what do you mean you don’t like most adult-oriented films?#then there’s how the importance of friendship is only really shown in cartoons too#which just further makes me feel childish#just#navigating the media can be a challenge as an aro