Hi! Okay so I've been identifying as pans…

Hi! Okay so I've been identifying as pansexual for a while because I wouldn't mind dating any gender. Well up until recently I realized I've never once had a crush or sexual feelings to anyone. I mean want to date someone, no matter the gender, but all I want to do is cuddle and hold hands, and anything past little kisses make me uncomfortable, so I think I'm ace but I'm not sure what to do since I came out to my friends and family

You can just tell them that it turns out you’re ace rather than pan. If they are decent people they’ll simply accept that. You don’t have to explain yourself, you don’t owe that to anyone.

If it helps, this is a pretty common experience of ace people. Lots of people think they’re bi or pan because “well i like them the same i guess???” until we realize that we do like them the same as in we aren‘t attracted to any gender. So you aren’t alone in this at all.

 – Mod Fiona