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Flowers For No One

“Flowers for no one in a room of friends listening carefully to music that celebrates the act of doing something for no one but you.”

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aspecpplarebeautiful:

There is nothing inherently disrespectful about being sexually attracted to someone. You don’t need romantic attraction to make sexual attraction OK.

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bruises-for-tomorrow:

aroflux: an aromantic whose level of romantic attraction fluctuates, being able to feel romance repulsed some days, alloromantic other days,
or other identities on the aromantic spectrum.

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a collection of songs i used to listen to when i couldn’t figure what on earth was up with me

Are there any resources for figuring out if yo…

Are there any resources for figuring out if you're aromantic? I don't know how to tell. I mean, I get what I call crushes, but I get them on any guy who pays attention to me. And then if I ask myself if I want to kiss them or hug them, I realise I don't. But I still like the idea of dating? I want to date (or just become better friends with?) guys that pay attention to me, and date (but really just stare at) attractive guys. I already know I'm ace too. Do you know of anything that could help?

I know that feel. I like it when people pay attention to me and complement me, which was a tad confusing when I first figure out my aromanticism. There’s also aesthetic attraction, where you just like the way someone looks, that can often be confused for a crush. Like, you stated, I asked myself if I was ever interested in kissing or holding hands with anyone, and I realized I didn’t want that at all. But I’m romance repulsed and don’t like people touching me in general, where you might not be. Arospec people dating is fairly uncommon but not unheard of. They can be romantic, sexual, sensual, platonic, etc. It’s up to you to figure out and we learn best about what we like and don’t like from experience. Though, I do recommend telling any partner that you’re aromantic and/or asexual before you start a relationship, just so they know and can decide if they are okay with possible limitations you might set. 

I find that it helps to do research on aromanticism by looking through aromantic blogs, AVEN, aromantic reddit, and videos by arospec people discussing their orientation.

Help? Im currently in a relationship but i..i …

Help? Im currently in a relationship but i..i think I might be aro..? But i mean, i feel love, but with all my relationships i just stopped feeling it towards the other person (romantically anyway) and i think thats what i’m feeling now, and i dont know what to do! Can anyone help me?

Have you heard of 

Akoiromantic/lithromantic or Freyromantic?

Definitions:

Akoiromantic/lithromantic: A person who experiences romantic attraction, but has their feelings fade if reciprocated. Can also be defined as someone who doesn’t care or want their feelings reciprocated.

Freyromantic: 

Feels attraction to strangers/those they don’t know well, but fades once they know them better. (Opposite of demisexual.)

You may also have been experiencing aesthetic attraction (liking the way someone looks) and confusing it romantic feelings, which is common. 

If you feel weird or uncomfortable being in a romantic relationship, you don’t have to stay in it. Just reassure your partner that it’s not about them and they did nothing wrong. If you do want to continue the relationship, that’s fine too. There are arospecs who date, some are even married. However, you should tell your partner that you might be aromantic/arospec after you do some research and soul searching. You’ll probably have to explain what that means and set boundaries for your relationship. They might even decide that it’s not the type of relationship they want. Its hard to take, but it’’ll probably save you time in the long run.

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Is aflexible a thing? Like homoflexible but wh…

Is aflexible a thing? Like homoflexible but when you’re ace? I’m not but I just had this thought.

Hmm, I don’t know about aflexable, but aceflux and aroflux are a thing. 

Ace/aroflux: Aceflux  describes someone whose experience of sexual attraction varies over time. Someone who is aceflux, for example, may feel very strongly asexual one day (definitely not feeling any sexual attraction to anyone), but less strongly asexual (maybe feeling weak sexual attraction) another day.

I'm trying to figure out my sensual orien…

I'm trying to figure out my sensual orientation, and it's hard because I have such a disconnect from it. It's probably from a combo of 1. Being touch-starved my whole life 2. Most of the times I have touched people, I didn't like those people/I didn't want to touch them 3. Touch/physical intimacy being very sexualized where I live. I guess I'm asking if you know of any words to describe this disconnect, even words meant to describe sexual stuff, I really want a word to describe it

I think it’s just as you said. You’re touch starved also known as touch

deprivation in medical terminology. It’s not uncommon these days with a lot of people being more and more isolated. Add on that in some cultures touching others is seen as a sexual or romantic thing, which keeps many from doing things like hugging or cuddling. Cracked did a whole podcast on touch starvation in the modern age: link, there’s an AVEN discussion on it: link, a Psychology Today article on touch deprivation: link, and a reddit thread: link

With touch starvation finally making it into our vernacular, there are starting to be therapies and group meetups for touch deprived people (mostly major cities). I always think that pets are a great option for cuddling. And queer platonic relationships are super nice for this reason. The relationship is platonic, but you can cuddle and hug all you want. I’m also sure that a good friend wouldn’t mind if you asked for a hug. I hope that you are able to find someone whom you actually like, that you can cuddle up with someday. Good luck, Anon.