I recently was diagnosed with PCOS. Meaning I may never be able to carry or birth my own children. I’m also ace. The doctors started messing with my hormones and so I’m now more emotional and want children even more. I told someone that I would do anything to carry my own child even though I dislike sex. They told me that I can’t be ace if I wanna carry my own children. I’m not ready to have kids yet bc I’m only 19 and I’m doing reborn therapy. But I’d like your thoughts on this?
I totally understand the dilemma and frustration. I, too, have chronic ovarian issues and am likely infertile. Although it does affect hormones, sexual attraction can be completely separate. Could they be related? Absolutely, but regardless, you identify as ace. An ace can have sex, enjoy sex, and want to carry children and still be ace. Asexuality is simply not having a sexual attraction towards someone. You are your own person, and wanting to carry children doesn’t define your sexuality at all.