Category: Anonymous

I need advice. I no longer feel romantic feeli…

I need advice. I no longer feel romantic feelings. Before that I embraced asexuality. Like seriously, I can’t feel romantic feelings. Please help!

from another friend:

Honestly, I’m not sure what to tell you other than how these two friends of mine responded.  Good luck!

Hello! Do you/your followers know what happene…

Hello! Do you/your followers know what happened to ace-book.()net? The page won't appear since yesterday, I don't know if it's only a problem on my side or it doesn't work for anyone else? Thank you for your help!

It’s working fine for me!

What does asexuality mean for my life?

What does asexuality mean for my life?

That’s up to you, honestly.  It’s going to mean different things for different people, so that’s not really something that I can tell you.  I wish you the best of luck as you figure that out.  One thing that might help is joining our discord, where you’ll have the chance to reach out to lots of other a-spec people!

https://discord.gg/zdJ7tbd

There’s only two genders, change my mind…

There’s only two genders, change my mind with facts.

Fact: I am gender fluid, and spend a lot of my time being nonbinary or agender. 

Would I be considered grey- or aego- sexual be…

Would I be considered grey- or aego- sexual because like i usually watch erotica out of boredom but I do have fantasies. Most of the time reading erotica doesn't arouse me but audios & photos ect. do sometimes and I'm just confused

yeah! aegosexual sounds like a better fit to me based on your description, but only you can really tell!

What I don't understand about the whole a…

What I don't understand about the whole ace exclusionary thing is that you wouldn't call an agender person cis. And while gender and sexuality are two different things that principle should still apply by not calling asexual people straight. I don't understand why that principle applies to gender but not sexuality

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I recently was diagnosed with PCOS. Meaning I …

I recently was diagnosed with PCOS. Meaning I may never be able to carry or birth my own children. I’m also ace. The doctors started messing with my hormones and so I’m now more emotional and want children even more. I told someone that I would do anything to carry my own child even though I dislike sex. They told me that I can’t be ace if I wanna carry my own children. I’m not ready to have kids yet bc I’m only 19 and I’m doing reborn therapy. But I’d like your thoughts on this?

Hi there! 

I totally understand the dilemma and frustration. I, too, have chronic ovarian issues and am likely infertile. Although it does affect hormones, sexual attraction can be completely separate. Could they be related? Absolutely, but regardless, you identify as ace. An ace can have sex, enjoy sex, and want to carry children and still be ace. Asexuality is simply not having a sexual attraction towards someone. You are your own person, and wanting to carry children doesn’t define your sexuality at all. 

Is asexuality apart of the LGBTQ+ community?

Is asexuality apart of the LGBTQ+ community?

Yes!

How do you know if you like someone enough to …

How do you know if you like someone enough to want to date them or if you just want to be good friends with them?

I honestly don’t know.  It’s really hard.  There are some good guidelines online if you google that same question.

ok so i'm hella confused. is it possible …

ok so i'm hella confused. is it possible for someone to be sexually attracted to girls but just girls as a whole or like as an idea? because ok i'm like yeah girls are hot i like seeing nsfw things with them and stuff like that + i know i'm romantically attracted to them, but i've never been sexually attracted to a specific girl not even one i've had a romantic crush on. does this make sense? am i ace? or just weird?

Hi there!  I might suggest looking into the terms aegosexual and autochorrissexual.  If you check our FAQ, there’s a brief description of the terms.  If you find that this idea describes you well, it’s still perfectly valid to ID as asexual, or to make one of these terms your main identifying label.