Aplatonic???? No friends????? Ajfjskdndjsi
Let me shut this down immediately right now, because I’m not letting this go by. You are confused, and let me explain this common misconception to you since you don’t understand. You have the right to misunderstand something and make mistakes, there’s always time to learn. But you sure as hell can’t be a ignorant, sassy or rude around me while invalidate something you clearly do not understand. That won’t get by me. Not understanding someone doesn’t mean they are wrong.
- It’s a term for people in the a-spectrum community in anyway who need a term like this.
- It’s not about how someone doesn’t want any “friends.” It is not that simple, it’s just not.
- It’s common in the a-spec community for aromantic aces to still say they’d like a (queer/quasi)platonic/alterous (a relationship that is neither definitively romantic or sexual partner but it is distinctly platonic and intimate. Or relationship that is like a mixture of platonic and romantic, but it wouldn’t be accurate to define it as strictly one or the other.)
- It’s common in the a-spec community for aromantic allosexuals to view their ideal relationship as friends who they have sex with and they are close with.
- Aplatonic is a term meant for those aromantics on the a-spectrum who don’t desire those two things listed above.
- It’s also meant for aromantic who do not feel “squishes” (friend crushes) like some aromantics do.
- It’s common for aplatonic people to feel broken, and invalid because people who are bigoted towards their exist don’t understand them or value them, and put people who have desires for close platonic/quasiplatonic/queerplatonic/alterous, romantic and sexual relationships over them. When they don’t have any desire for close relationship or are touch aversed or intimacy aversed in any manner or it’s just not for them.
- Let people use language to genuinely define themselves, Let them find a sense of positivity, community, acknowledgement and validation. Not having a term for how you feel can be loathsome, invalidating and lack of a sense of belonging. Everyone deserves the access and acknowledgement to accurately define themselves. Let people have the opportunity identify with terms accurate to them. It’s up to them to identify how they want. Not us.
Aplatonic people exist, and are valid.
Aplatonic people are not heartless or broken.
Not understanding someone doesn’t mean they are wrong.
And what a shocker, they can have friends just like everyone else. Next question.