just a little comic for all my fellow aros out there
The ninja turtles are aro culture, they love pizza, pizza is the aro food, wake up people. Also the ninja turtles would aboslutely kick arophobe/acephobe butts! They fight bad guys after all
im a new aro but i dont like pizza, will this be an issue?
No, if you dont like pizza as an aro the ninja turtles eat enough pizza for every aro who doesnt like pizza.
This is so so true!
As much as we feel out of the loop and different and maybe lonely (cause we’re told being in a couple is the only way to not be alone), Im so glad to not feel all of the fear that makes allos NEED to have a romantic partner to exist. It breaks my heart seeing people suffer so much because of it
Someone I’m friends with on Facebook shared an article about singleness where the author talked about how for a long period of his life he was “obsessed” with finding a partner. He would automatically “screen” every girl he met for her potential to be a match. His point in the article was that he finally realized he could be happy single and that singleness was not an inherently negative thing and also not necessarily a permanent state of being that you have to either commit to or frantically run away from (it was a Christian article, and the idea of being called to singleness/celibacy for life is a thing in Christianity).
Idk it just got me thinking how lucky we are to be aro or aroace and to have that sort of outsider perspective. I have never once “screened” someone for their potential to be my partner, and as far as I can tell this is an exceedingly common thing to do for allos. It’s this constant Awareness that Someone they meet will end up being their partner. It sounds exhausting! And like.. awkward and uncomfortable.
And also the cultural pressures to be in a relationship and get married and not be single don’t affect me nearly as much as they affect my allo friends. Yes they may affect aros in unique ways, like making us feel broken, but at least for me I’ve never felt that pressure to be in a relationship as a genuine push toward being in a relationship. I feel it more as a cultural annoyance that everyone else seems to be deeply affected by. People prioritize romantic relationships, rush into them, get engaged young, date serially, and are scared to be single because our culture tells us it’s the worst thing you could be. Maybe I’m uncommon even for an aro but I just don’t feel any of that. I feel like an outsider watching people behave in these mysterious ways and I just don’t get it, and I don’t like it when they try to force their ways of thinking onto me (trying to set me up, assuming I’m also desperate to find a partner, etc).
I also thought it was cool that a deeply Christian presumably allo dude wrote what basically amounts to a Christian take on dismantling cultural amatonormativity. He said things like don’t assume that everyone who is single is looking for someone, don’t try to set them up with all your friends, accept them into your community, and make sure when you’re single you understand that it’s ok and good and learn to love yourself and grow as a person. Given how pervasive amatonormativity is in Christian communities, it’s really cool that people still see through it.
I’ve seen the “alternative aromantic flag” post on my dashboard and believe it is very important to let you all know that right now the user amethyst/hazel/eyes (without the slashes), also known as Triple/A (without the slash) on the Arocalypse forums, is an ace/aro exclusionist as well as someone who does not believe in the aromantic spectrum. They believe that only aromantics who have never felt romantic attraction whatsoever and who never want anything to do with romance in any way, shape, or form are “true” aromantics.
I, and I should say the vast majority of the rest of the community, do not tolerate this elitist behaviour. I urge you all to not give this person a platform and not reblog their content. They seem to wish that, with the creation of a flag and with enough people in agreement with them, they’ll create their own “real aromantic community.”
I decided to make a separate post about this instead of reblogging their post(s). I will not be debating the status of aros on this blog, but because I keep seeing them around and they have continuously resisted mine and others’ attempts to educate, I thought it important to mention to you all.
op idk how to tell you this
i realized that the lesbian + aro flags have the same number of stripes so here. either an aro lesbian flag or a lesbian / aro solidarity flag!
Me whenever I hear a song using the word “love” but otherwise not being explicitly about romance, despite knowing it’s a romance song: It’s a platonic love song now 👀
The entire analogy was just fantastic and so, so accurate, and I wanted to make a comic for it, even if it’s very sketchy because my attention span is nil.
An adorable, helpful, and accurate little comic!
This is the best way to describe aro/aceness I’ve seen! Also, the cutest!
friendly reminder that jughead jones is canonically aro/ace
happy pride month, everyone 🙂
this is literally all coded talk for him being gay but yeah anyway
ah yes because “i don’t go on dates”, “i don’t want to kiss PEOPLE”, and “i don’t get crushes” is gay coding sure lmao
yeah using the word asexual to describe a character is Obviously gay coding
Yeah because an openly gay character telling Jughead he doesn’t get his dilemma about finding other gay men to date is SO gay coding
Sometimes, it’s really hard to accept that you’re Aromantic
It’s hard to understand that the future that you’ve been told is inevitable is wrong for you entirely
It’s hard to accept that it really is okay to not find a romantic partner and not get married
It’s hard to let go of that hope that someday it will change.
It’s hard to stop the thoughts that you will eventually “meet the right person”
It’s just hard
And that’s okay
Self-acceptence is a long journey, and it isn’t linear. There may be days when you love and accept yourself, but other days you just wish you were “normal”
But the truth is we are normal. We here and we don’t need to cling to the future that we were forced to accept. We don’t have to wait for change that might never come. We can accept ourselves the way we are right now and love ourselves. There will be bad days, but we will have many more good ones
And it’s okay if you aren’t there yet, if this aromantic or arospec label is right for you, self-acceptence will come