Category: aroflux

Interview: Marie-Pier

Today we’re joined by Marie-Pier. Marie-Pier is a phenomenal seamstress who uses her incredible skills for fashion design and cosplay. A dedicated cosplayer, Marie-Pier has cosplayed as various characters from different fandoms. Aside from her costumes, she also makes the accessories that go with her cosplays. Marie-Pier has also designed regular everyday outfits as well. It’s clear she’s a dedicated and talented artist, as you’ll soon see. My thanks to her for taking the time to participate in this interview.

WORK

Please, tell us about
your art.

Hello! I am Marie-Pier and I am an artist in the broad sense
of the term. From drawing, to writing and even programming (it’s an art,
believe me!), I enjoy many
aspects of art, but my favorite outlet at the moment is sewing and cosplaying.
For me, the main appeal of this activity is the fact that it’s so versatile and
it encompasses most of my other passions. I draw my own concepts, I make my own
patterns and I often have to handmake accessories, which allows me to build up
so many skills. I haven’t made a ton of outfits and costumes thus far, but
that’s because a lot of care is put into everything I make, which ends up being
quite time consuming. Among the characters I’ve cosplayed, one can count Queen
Elsa, The Evil Queen (Regina Mills from Once
Upon a Time
, Emma Swan (“Dark Swan”, also from Once Upon a Time) and a few other simpler cosplays like Wednesday
Addams.

When I make “regular” outfits, I often go for little black
dresses, although my most recent creation is an autumn/spring wool coat.

What inspires you?

I’m mostly inspired by the gothic aesthetic, as well as
fabrics. I love things that look graceful and elegant, but I also have a soft
spot for more structured/tougher looking outfits.

As far as cosplay characters go, I am mostly drawn to evil
or dark characters, because more often than not, they’re the ones with the best
outfits! It’s also always fun
to portray villains or anti-heroes because they’re usually really confident and
completely unashamed to be themselves.

One of my
idols in the designing world is Eduardo Castro, the costume designer for Once
Upon a Time, hence why most of my cosplays are from that TV show. Let’s just
say that I am easily won over by impressive gowns and really captivated
by anything that sparkles.

When I make actual clothes, I usually go for things that I
am unable to find in stores. I don’t really care about what’s trendy; I simply
make what I want to own and what I know would look nice on me.

What got you
interested in your field?  Have you
always wanted to be an artist?

I’ve always loved arts and crafts, as well as dressing up. Both
my grandmothers used to make clothes and costumes for me. I would draw what I
wanted to have and give them the drawings so that they could make it.

In high school, I decided it was about time I learned to sew
on my own. As a longtime fan of Halloween, I started making my own costumes and
I attempted to outdo myself every year. By the time I finished High School, I
learned about conventions and cosplaying and began to consider it.

A year later, in 2014, I joined a fashion design club and
took that opportunity to make my first wearable garments and my first real
cosplay (Queen Elsa from Frozen).
What I grew to love the most about cosplaying is the amount of skills I got to
learn from it. Each costume of mine came with different challenges that allowed
me to learn things I wouldn’t have otherwise. (E.g. woodworking, making 18th
undergarments, sourcing screen-accurate materials…)

However, despite my love of sewing and costume making, I would
not want to make a career out of it, because it is my own way of clearing my
mind and relaxing. I never really try to force myself to work on a project; I
just let out my creative energy whenever I feel like it.

Do you have any kind
of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work
that you’d be willing to reveal?

There is a little something special I try to include in all
my cosplays and it’s a bit of an inside joke. It began when I made sequins out
of plastic soda bottles to cover the entire surface of my Queen Elsa bodice. Ever
since I discovered how versatile a material plastic bottles could be, I’ve
incorporated at least one element made from them in all my costumes. Thus far
I’ve used them to make sequins, a hair comb, detailing on a dagger’s handle,
and a necklace.

What advice would you
give young aspiring artists?

There are three things I would tell young aspiring artists.
Firstly, practice makes perfect. The more you practice your skills, the better
you’ll get. Don’t be scared to tackle huge challenging projects, they are the
ones that provide the most learning experience. Also, don’t be scared to ask
for help when you need it.

Secondly, don’t feel bad if you start preferring another art
form over what you currently are into. Do what makes you the happiest and build
as many new skills as you like.

Lastly, follow your own quality standards no matter what
others say. If someone tries to tell you that you can’t possibly do something
of a certain quality, don’t listen to them. Trust in your abilities and in your
will to learn and perfect your craft.

ASEXUALITY

Where on the spectrum
do you identify?

I identify as asexual greyromantic/aroflux.

Have you encountered
any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field?  If so, how do you handle it?

Since my favorite character to cosplay (the Evil Queen) is
known for being quite sexy and alluring, some people think that I dress like
her to attract the male gaze and seek attention. Some even said that if I
really was asexual, I wouldn’t choose to dress like that. I had thought about
that sort of thing before making my costume and it almost stopped me from
making it because I was afraid of conveying the wrong message, but ultimately,
I decided to not care. I cosplay the Evil Queen/Regina because I love her as a
character and because her outfits are beautiful and intricate works of art. I
chose to not let people spoil that for me.

Orientation has nothing to do with the way we dress and
asexuals have the right to be confident, comfortable in their own bodies and
wear whatever they like.

What’s the most
common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?

The most common misconception about asexuality that I’ve
encountered is that asexuals simply haven’t met “the one” and that they’ll
change their minds one day. There are a lot of people who think we need to be
“fixed or cured” and that does get very tiresome in the long run. Also, some
people think that we can’t be in a relationship if we’re asexual, which is not
exactly true.

What advice would you
give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their
orientation?

This is not really an advice, per say, but I think that those
people need to hear that they are not broken, no matter what society tells
them. Today’s world is so overly sexual, but we must not let that discourage
us. Even if we’re a minority, we’re out there, we’re valid and we shouldn’t let
other people tell us otherwise. If you think that you might be asexual, just
follow your gut feeling and let that guide you. Set your own boundaries and
limits and respect yourself; do what makes you happy.

Finally, where can
people find out more about your work?

I am on
multiple social media under the name Silyah246.

For sewing
and cosplay progress (and the occasional daily life post), find me on
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/silyah246/
For more professional high quality photos, you can head over to my DeviantArt
page: https://silyah246.deviantart.com/
For more fandom orientated things and the occasional makeup tests, my Tumblr is
the place to go: http://www.silyah246.tumblr.com/

I am also
on Twitter (https://twitter.com/silyah246) and YouTube (https://www.youtube.com/user/Silyah246), but I use those less frequently
than the others.

Thank you, Marie-Pier, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.

FLUX · an aroflux mix

bruises-for-tomorrow:

aroflux: an aromantic whose level of romantic attraction fluctuates, being able to feel romance repulsed some days, alloromantic other days,
or other identities on the aromantic spectrum.

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a collection of songs i used to listen to when i couldn’t figure what on earth was up with me

Is aflexible a thing? Like homoflexible but wh…

Is aflexible a thing? Like homoflexible but when you’re ace? I’m not but I just had this thought.

Hmm, I don’t know about aflexable, but aceflux and aroflux are a thing. 

Ace/aroflux: Aceflux  describes someone whose experience of sexual attraction varies over time. Someone who is aceflux, for example, may feel very strongly asexual one day (definitely not feeling any sexual attraction to anyone), but less strongly asexual (maybe feeling weak sexual attraction) another day.

30 day Aromantic Challenge

thearospectrum:

Couldn’t find one that already existed for us aros (go figure, right) so here you go! 😀

  1. Where do you fall on the spectrum?
  2. When did you realize you were on the spectrum? How did you realize you where in the spectrum? 
  3. Basic info question: What is you age/sexual orientation/gender/race/anything else you’d like to add? 
  4. Are you out to anyone? If so, to who? If not do you plan on coming out?
  5. Do you still date as an aromantic? 
  6. Do you have any squishes? If so, to who? 
  7. Do you ID with the “aromantic” community any? What about the queer/LGBT+ community? Any other communities you ID with? 
  8. What exactly does being aromantic mean to you? 
  9. DO you have a lot of aromantic pride? If so how do you show it? 
  10. How do you feel about the aromantic flag design/colors? 
  11. Do you have any aromatic headcanons? 
  12. What misconception about aromantics do you hate the most? 
  13. How do you feel about the aromantic ring? Would you (or do you?) wear it?
  14. What are some of your favorite aromantic centric blogs that you follow, if you follow any? 
  15. Who are some of your favorite aromantic bloggers? 
  16. How did you learn about aromantism? 
  17. What do relationships mean to you, be they romo/platonic/sexual/etc, if they have any meaning at all? 
  18. Are you romo-replused, indifferent to romance, or do you actually enjoy the notice of romance? 
  19. Who is your personally biggest ally?
  20. Which argument AGAINST aromantism do you hate the most? 
  21. Which argument FOR aromantism do you hate the most? 
  22. Do you believe people can choose to be aromantic? 
  23. What kind of things do you relate with aromantism, be it personal or more generalized? 
  24. Have you had the chance to meet other aromantics? If so, how has that gone for you? 
  25. Talk about you best aromantic friend(s).
  26. Talk about the person who is the most supportive of your aromantism.
  27. Do you own any aromantic merch? If so, talk about it. If not, do you plan on buying any?
  28. Have you faced any bigotry based on your aromantism? 
  29. Something you hate about the aromantic community? 
  30. Something you love about the aromantic community?

Alternate questions in case you’re uncomfy/have issues with any of the above: 

  • Talk about the first person you came out too
  • Do you have anyone you’d be willing to be in a qpp with? 
  • How do you hope your coming out experience to go? 
  • Tell a joke! 
  • Tell us about your partners/friends 
  • Favorite food? 
  • Favorite quote? Preferably something aromantic related be it direct or indirect. 
  • Favorite place? 
  • Favorite shows/movies/books/plays?
  • Are you in any fandoms?
  • How active in the aromantic community are you?
  • Talk about anything aromatic related that you wish 

dailyarospec-drawings: Bubble aroflux icon fr…

dailyarospec-drawings:

Bubble aroflux icon free to use!

dailyarospec-drawings: Aroflux watercolor!

dailyarospec-drawings:

Aroflux watercolor!

list of a-spec identities & info!

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this is meant to be a comprehensive list (to the best of my limited abilities) of aro-spectrum and ace-spectrum identities. all the posts I saw had like 3 choices or a hundred, and I wanted something that was accurate and had a lot of research behind it…so I made it myself. I wrote the definitions, based on preexisting ones, for additional clarity and context.

anyone a-spec, questioning, or simply wanting to know more about our community is free & encouraged to reblog!

*”romantic/sexual” is in the definitions because the labels apply to both spectrums unless -romantic or -sexual is in the name

Asexual : not feeling sexual attraction to any gender(s)

Things that are completely separate from being asexual (but can be related): libido, sex drive, being a virgin, having/had sex, being sex positive/neutral/repulsed, and platonic, romantic, & familial love

Apothisexual : asexual that is sex repulsed

Aromantic : not feeling romantic attraction to any gender(s)

Things that are completely separate from being aromantic (but can be related): shipping, fantasizing about relationships and love, wanting a close relationship, been/being in relationships, being romance positive/neutral/repulsed, and platonic, sexual, & familial love

Apothiromantic : aromantic that is romance repulsed

Apath- : romance/sex neutral, regardless of orientation or attraction felt

Cupio- : not feeling romantic/sexual attraction but still desiring a relationship of that nature

Gray- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction weakly, rarely, only under certain conditions, or all of those. also an umbrella term for between allo and asexual/aromantic. may or may not desire a relationship.

Demi- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction only after an emotional bond is formed. the bond strength and time before attraction can vary between the demi person and the person they’re attracted to.

-Flux : (aroflux or aceflux) their orientation fluctuates, but always stays on the aromantic/asexual spectrum

Lithro-/Akoi-/Akoine-/Apo- : feels romantic/sexual attraction and enjoys relationships in theory, but don’t need/want those feelings reciprocated or to be in a relationship. (there are several labels because the original, from litho, is argued to be appropriated from lesbian butch culture, so wouldn’t recommend using it.)

Recipro- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction only to people who feel it for them, they reciprocate the type of the attraction

Fray- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction when less familiar with a person, but it fades as they get to know them better (sometimes described as the opposite of demi)

Aego- : enjoys the idea of romance/sex, but doesn’t wish to participate in it or related activities (based off autochoris– : a disconnection between the person and a romantic/sexual target or fantasy)

Quoi/WTF- : feeling unsure if romantic/sexual attraction is being felt and/or if they experience it. feeling as if the concept of that type of attraction is inaccessible, inapplicable, and/or nonsensical. (Another commonly used definition that isn’t correct is for the term below, so use that instead.)

Platoniromantic : feels no distinction between platonic and romantic attraction

Idemromantic : feels romantic and platonic attraction similarly so they are not particularly distinguishable from each other. categorizes platonic and romantic relationships based on external factors such as age, compatibility, closeness, etc. they mean different things and can be categorized, but feel the same.

Requies- : little to no romantic/sexual attraction due to trauma, possibly caused by bad past experiences with the type of attraction, or mental/emotional exhaustion

Caed- : used to feel romantic/sexual attraction, but doesn’t anymore due to trauma

Apres- : feels romantic/sexual attraction after another form of attraction is felt, and the original may or may not fade/be replaced by the new attraction

-Vague : (arovague or acevague) their a-spec status is uncertain or affected by mood

Burst- : romantic/sexual attraction comes and goes, may or may not have a reason

Nebularomantic : difficult or impossible to tell romantic and platonic attraction apart because of their

neurodivergency or they’re platoniromantic

Novi- : feels complicated romantic/sexual attraction so it can’t be described in a single label

Quasiromantic : “someone who identifies as quasiromantic may see their attraction as non-traditional or may feel it differs from crushes, perhaps a mix between platonic, romantic, aesthetic, or somewhere completely different and/or it involves other non-traditional aspects, such as rare attraction, or attraction but non-physical, non-platonic but romantic, etc.” -general def

Vocab

S.A.M : split attraction model. most used in the a-spec community, it means that romantic and sexual orientations are different and separate. for example, someone could be homoromantic asexual, or aromantic bisexual. in the case of someone who is, for example, panromantic and pansexual, they can just state their orientation as pansexual, as there is no need for the SAM. however, it’s totally optional! if you feel, for example, asexual is your orientation and doesn’t need other labels, that’s fine!

Q.P.R. : queerplatonic (or quasiplatonic if the participants are not LGBT+) relationship. this is a type of relationship created by aro people for aro people, but anyone of any sexuality can be in one if they wish! it is defined as “a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection beyond what most people consider friendship. The commitment level in a queerplatonic relationship is often considered to be similar to that of a romantic relationship. It may include any romantic or sexual elements the people in the relationship feel they want, or none at all.” -Aven Wiki

Peach Fuzz : qpr partners (known as zucchinis) pretending their relationship is romantic to avoid questions and explanations

Positive/Neutral/Repulsed : labels used to describe how someone feels about sex or romance in relation to them. positive: willing to be in that kind of relationship and/or do related things; neutral: indifferent, almost apathetic to the idea of sex/romance, doesn’t care too much if they give and/or receive it; negative/repulsed: actively disgusted by the idea of sex/romance. can also describe a person’s attitude about sex in general (not used in this post).

Amatonormativity : society treating romantic relationships as more valuable/better than non-romantic ones, and generally that a romantic and sexual relationship is the end goal and necessary (it’s really not)

Nonamory : doesn’t want to be in a romantic relationship, regardless of orientation

Aromate : a platonic soulmate, aka an aromantic partner

Lush : sensual attraction crush

Plush : queerplatonic crush

Smush : sexual attraction crush (can be considered lust if applicable)

Swish : aesthetic attraction crush

Squish : platonic attraction crush, usually more intense than “want to be friends”

Soft Romo : subdued romantic attraction

Post Rubor : gets quick crushes (of any type of attraction), but once the initial excitement fades, their feelings do too

Aplatonic : as platonic attraction is on a spectrum just like every other type of attraction, this is being on the lack-of end. not experiencing platonic attraction

Placio- : little/no desire to receive

sexual/romantic acts, but wants to perform them on someone else. not specifically an a-spec term but is used more in the community

Alterous : attraction that isn’t completely platonic or romantic, somewhere in between, but still a desire for emotional closeness. used as -alterous, like -sexual or -romantic. can also experience romantic and/or platonic attraction, but feel some level of discomfort by categorizing it as fitting in those labels.

*remember, even for people who use the same label, it’s different for everyone, as are most things here! if you’re questioning and looking at this list to try and see where you fit, there’s no rush. take it slow and think about it.

feel free to add on! I’m sure I’ve missed some key terms or amazing identities because there’s so many out there and I’d love to see this post grow!!

queer-rain: Heres some ace-spec and aro-spec…

queer-rain:

Heres some ace-spec and aro-spec pride stars.
They are transparent but I can make individual ones with any color
background just send me an ask with a reference or color number
(#000000).

Regular

vexic929:

all i want for christmas is you-

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“What it’s Like to be” Masterlist

peanutbutterbananasmoothie:

What it’s Like to be Abrosexual

What it’s Like to be Agender

What it’s Like to be Aroflux

What it’s Like to be Aromantic

What it’s Like to be Asexual

What it’s Like to be Bigender

What it’s Like to be Biromantic

What it’s Like to be Bisexual

What it’s Like to be Demigirl

What it’s Like to be Demiromantic

What it’s Like to be Demisexual

What it’s Like to be Gay

What it’s Like to be Genderfluid

What it’s Like to be Genderflux

What it’s Like to be Genderqueer

What it’s Like to be Gendervoid

What it’s Like to be Lesbian

What it’s Like to be Lithromantic

What it’s Like to be Maverique

What it’s Like to be Nebularomantic

What it’s Like to be Nonbinary

What it’s Like to be Panromantic

What it’s Like to be Pansexual

What it’s Like to be Polysexual

What it’s Like to be Queer

What it’s Like to be Quoigender

What it’s Like to be Transgender