Category: aromantic

dragonheartftherpays: I did a very quick, ske…

dragonheartftherpays:

I did a very quick, sketchy comic because I was extremely inspired by this post. (Credit to @pinkdiamondprince for the original post.)

The entire analogy was just fantastic and so, so accurate, and I wanted to make a comic for it, even if it’s very sketchy because my attention span is nil.

Results from the aspec PDA survey!

nblmgalaxy:

In the survey, I essentially asked people who identify anywhere on the aro-spectrum/ace-spectrum to share how they feel about PDA in LGBT+ spaces because I’ve often seen non-aspec people say that aspec folks are very against PDA in LGBT+ spaces and actively try to prevent it. I’ve never personally experienced this or met anybody who has, so I made this survey to ask aspec people how they actually feel.

Here are the results so far!

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Out of the 84 people who responded, nobody was against PDA in LGBT+ spaces! The majority of respondents (67.9%) say they support it. 31% of respondents said they support PDA even though it makes them uncomfortable. One respondent added their own answer, “I don’t care, you do you, have fun.”

Here are some of the individual responses:
Respondent 4, who identifies as arospec and asexual: “I’m uncomfortable with all kinds of PDA due to trauma, but I wouldn’t stop people from kissing/holding hands in an lgbt+ space. If it went on for more than a moment or two and I was having a really PDA-repulsed day, I’d go to the bathroom or get some water or something. If I knew I wasn’t doing so well trigger-wise that morning, I’d probably have stayed home

Respondent 7, who identifies as aromantic and asexual: “I support common acts of affection like kissing/hand holding/etc., but acts that border on sexual like intense making out/ass grabbing/etc. make me uncomfortable.”

Respondant 74, who identifies as aromantic and asexual: “I am romance/sex-repulsed personally, but obviously I would not try to make people stop, especially in a LGBTQ+ space designed to allow for PDA.”

Respondent 84, who identifies as aromantic: “romantic pda can sometimes make me feel uncomfy, but it’s usually more straight pda than gay pda, and i think gay people 100% should have a safe place for pda.“

So, there you have it, friends! 84 people is a relatively small sample size but I think the trend is clear: generally, aspec people are not against PDA in LGBT+ spaces.

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nonbinarychildofapollo: Since people don’t see…

nonbinarychildofapollo:

Since people don’t seem to understand why aces and aros are LGBT+ and not cishet, I made this. The credit in the corner there is my Instagram btw.

punkrockinchairs: vvnmeme: arofili: hi so i j…

punkrockinchairs:

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arofili:

hi so i just heard this song  and ??? i’m crying ???? my aro ass can finally relate to something ???

from will jay’s twitter:

we fell out of touch when i moved back from LA but will is such a genuinely sweet person & i’m so happy for him & i highly encourage yall to check him out

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whatsnew-lgbtq:

Platonic love is real love and shouldnt be treated like less becuase it isnt romantic. Defining love as only romantic is a terrible concept. You should be able to love people in a platonic way as much as romantic way and not be seen as less

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notdaily-arospecdrawings: me, a tired aromant…

notdaily-arospecdrawings:

me, a tired aromantic who enjoys tie-die and painting nails.

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universalswan:

No, Patrick, sex is not an inherent human need.

Romance is not an inherent need either.

Are there any resources for figuring out if yo…

Are there any resources for figuring out if you're aromantic? I don't know how to tell. I mean, I get what I call crushes, but I get them on any guy who pays attention to me. And then if I ask myself if I want to kiss them or hug them, I realise I don't. But I still like the idea of dating? I want to date (or just become better friends with?) guys that pay attention to me, and date (but really just stare at) attractive guys. I already know I'm ace too. Do you know of anything that could help?

I know that feel. I like it when people pay attention to me and complement me, which was a tad confusing when I first figure out my aromanticism. There’s also aesthetic attraction, where you just like the way someone looks, that can often be confused for a crush. Like, you stated, I asked myself if I was ever interested in kissing or holding hands with anyone, and I realized I didn’t want that at all. But I’m romance repulsed and don’t like people touching me in general, where you might not be. Arospec people dating is fairly uncommon but not unheard of. They can be romantic, sexual, sensual, platonic, etc. It’s up to you to figure out and we learn best about what we like and don’t like from experience. Though, I do recommend telling any partner that you’re aromantic and/or asexual before you start a relationship, just so they know and can decide if they are okay with possible limitations you might set. 

I find that it helps to do research on aromanticism by looking through aromantic blogs, AVEN, aromantic reddit, and videos by arospec people discussing their orientation.