Category: aromantic

parzivalcreations: When you find one of your …

parzivalcreations:

When you find one of your old diaries and realise the signs were there from the beginning

Sorry, kiddo, don’t think you’ll get that crush 

(also I’m so sorry I haven’t been posting recently a lot is going on!! but I have a lot planned!)

storyofarts: 今年には、皆成長しますね。

storyofarts:

今年には、皆成長しますね。

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what's the difference between the two aro…

what's the difference between the two aromantic flags (the one in your icon vs. the one with yellow that I used to see a lot a couple years ago)? if you don't want to answer this or don't have the resources to, that's totally fine! 🙂

Alrighty so history time! 

The aromantic flag was originally this flag: 

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green was the opposite of red, the color of romance, while yellow was meant to represent QPRs, orange for lithros, and black for alloromantics who reject traditional ideas of romance.

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the problem was, this flag looked tangentially similar to the Rastafarian flag (above), which is often paired with black. there were also other problems: some aros said they didn’t like it because it was designed by a small group of people, included a stripe for alloromantics (????), didn’t include gray-as and demis, etc. etc.

so this flag was proposed.

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dark green for aromantic people, light green for grey-aro people, yellow for lithro people, grey for demiromantic people, and black for WTF romantics. so overall more inclusive and well done as far as color meanings. the problems with this one: some people complained that it looked too close to the Jamacian flag and some neurodivergent people had sensory issues with the color yellow, which made the aro flag completely inaccessible to them. so one last time, the aro flag was adapted to be more accessible and not risk any cultural appropriation issues:

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so the color meanings were changed a wee bit as well: with the top two stripes representing the aromantic spectrum, similar as before, the white stripe being non-romantic forms of love or the “platonic” stripe, and then the gray and black representing the sexuality spectrum and that aros have diverse sexualities ranging from ace to allo, because we’re diverse and varying people!

@cameronwhimsy designed both the flag with the yellow stripe and the flag with the white stripe, so please give them credit if you’re attributing flag credit on a wiki or something.

So basically, one was designed specifically to avoid cultural appropriation and be inclusive to people with color sensitivity, and one is slightly outdated. Really, they’re both used frequently, so it’s an easy mistake to make. In my opinion, if you’re doing art of say….a dragon, and you’re using the color scheme, it’s ok to use yellow and orange for accents, but if you’re just making pride edits in general, rule of thumb would probably be to stick to the last one, especially if you’re alloromantic (aros can use whichever one they like as long as they’re aware of the issues). 

Hope this helped nonny, this was a longwinded explanation where there really didn’t need to be one but *shrugs* what can you do.

queer-moods: purple + alien asexual moodboard

queer-moods:

purple + alien asexual moodboard

vyscera: ✧ Do you wanna believe? Then thes…

vyscera:

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Do you wanna believe? Then these designs are for you!

Click the links below for a mug, shirt, sticker, ect

gay trans bi pan poly demi ace aro genderqueer nonbinary demigirl demiboy

agender new: lesbian genderfluid genderflux

EDIT: at request, here’s also a design for the genderfluid, lesbian, and genderflux flags !

list of a-spec identities & info!

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this is meant to be a comprehensive list (to the best of my limited abilities) of aro-spectrum and ace-spectrum identities. all the posts I saw had like 3 choices or a hundred, and I wanted something that was accurate and had a lot of research behind it…so I made it myself. I wrote the definitions, based on preexisting ones, for additional clarity and context.

anyone a-spec, questioning, or simply wanting to know more about our community is free & encouraged to reblog!

*”romantic/sexual” is in the definitions because the labels apply to both spectrums unless -romantic or -sexual is in the name

Asexual : not feeling sexual attraction to any gender(s)

Things that are completely separate from being asexual (but can be related): libido, sex drive, being a virgin, having/had sex, being sex positive/neutral/repulsed, and platonic, romantic, & familial love

Apothisexual : asexual that is sex repulsed

Aromantic : not feeling romantic attraction to any gender(s)

Things that are completely separate from being aromantic (but can be related): shipping, fantasizing about relationships and love, wanting a close relationship, been/being in relationships, being romance positive/neutral/repulsed, and platonic, sexual, & familial love

Apothiromantic : aromantic that is romance repulsed

Apath- : romance/sex neutral, regardless of orientation or attraction felt

Cupio- : not feeling romantic/sexual attraction but still desiring a relationship of that nature

Gray- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction weakly, rarely, only under certain conditions, or all of those. also an umbrella term for between allo and asexual/aromantic. may or may not desire a relationship.

Demi- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction only after an emotional bond is formed. the bond strength and time before attraction can vary between the demi person and the person they’re attracted to.

-Flux : (aroflux or aceflux) their orientation fluctuates, but always stays on the aromantic/asexual spectrum

Lithro-/Akoi-/Akoine-/Apo- : feels romantic/sexual attraction and enjoys relationships in theory, but don’t need/want those feelings reciprocated or to be in a relationship. (there are several labels because the original, from litho, is argued to be appropriated from lesbian butch culture, so wouldn’t recommend using it.)

Recipro- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction only to people who feel it for them, they reciprocate the type of the attraction

Fray- : feeling romantic/sexual attraction when less familiar with a person, but it fades as they get to know them better (sometimes described as the opposite of demi)

Aego- : enjoys the idea of romance/sex, but doesn’t wish to participate in it or related activities (based off autochoris– : a disconnection between the person and a romantic/sexual target or fantasy)

Quoi/WTF- : feeling unsure if romantic/sexual attraction is being felt and/or if they experience it. feeling as if the concept of that type of attraction is inaccessible, inapplicable, and/or nonsensical. (Another commonly used definition that isn’t correct is for the term below, so use that instead.)

Platoniromantic : feels no distinction between platonic and romantic attraction

Idemromantic : feels romantic and platonic attraction similarly so they are not particularly distinguishable from each other. categorizes platonic and romantic relationships based on external factors such as age, compatibility, closeness, etc. they mean different things and can be categorized, but feel the same.

Requies- : little to no romantic/sexual attraction due to trauma, possibly caused by bad past experiences with the type of attraction, or mental/emotional exhaustion

Caed- : used to feel romantic/sexual attraction, but doesn’t anymore due to trauma

Apres- : feels romantic/sexual attraction after another form of attraction is felt, and the original may or may not fade/be replaced by the new attraction

-Vague : (arovague or acevague) their a-spec status is uncertain or affected by mood

Burst- : romantic/sexual attraction comes and goes, may or may not have a reason

Nebularomantic : difficult or impossible to tell romantic and platonic attraction apart because of their

neurodivergency or they’re platoniromantic

Novi- : feels complicated romantic/sexual attraction so it can’t be described in a single label

Quasiromantic : “someone who identifies as quasiromantic may see their attraction as non-traditional or may feel it differs from crushes, perhaps a mix between platonic, romantic, aesthetic, or somewhere completely different and/or it involves other non-traditional aspects, such as rare attraction, or attraction but non-physical, non-platonic but romantic, etc.” -general def

Vocab

S.A.M : split attraction model. most used in the a-spec community, it means that romantic and sexual orientations are different and separate. for example, someone could be homoromantic asexual, or aromantic bisexual. in the case of someone who is, for example, panromantic and pansexual, they can just state their orientation as pansexual, as there is no need for the SAM. however, it’s totally optional! if you feel, for example, asexual is your orientation and doesn’t need other labels, that’s fine!

Q.P.R. : queerplatonic (or quasiplatonic if the participants are not LGBT+) relationship. this is a type of relationship created by aro people for aro people, but anyone of any sexuality can be in one if they wish! it is defined as “a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection beyond what most people consider friendship. The commitment level in a queerplatonic relationship is often considered to be similar to that of a romantic relationship. It may include any romantic or sexual elements the people in the relationship feel they want, or none at all.” -Aven Wiki

Peach Fuzz : qpr partners (known as zucchinis) pretending their relationship is romantic to avoid questions and explanations

Positive/Neutral/Repulsed : labels used to describe how someone feels about sex or romance in relation to them. positive: willing to be in that kind of relationship and/or do related things; neutral: indifferent, almost apathetic to the idea of sex/romance, doesn’t care too much if they give and/or receive it; negative/repulsed: actively disgusted by the idea of sex/romance. can also describe a person’s attitude about sex in general (not used in this post).

Amatonormativity : society treating romantic relationships as more valuable/better than non-romantic ones, and generally that a romantic and sexual relationship is the end goal and necessary (it’s really not)

Nonamory : doesn’t want to be in a romantic relationship, regardless of orientation

Aromate : a platonic soulmate, aka an aromantic partner

Lush : sensual attraction crush

Plush : queerplatonic crush

Smush : sexual attraction crush (can be considered lust if applicable)

Swish : aesthetic attraction crush

Squish : platonic attraction crush, usually more intense than “want to be friends”

Soft Romo : subdued romantic attraction

Post Rubor : gets quick crushes (of any type of attraction), but once the initial excitement fades, their feelings do too

Aplatonic : as platonic attraction is on a spectrum just like every other type of attraction, this is being on the lack-of end. not experiencing platonic attraction

Placio- : little/no desire to receive

sexual/romantic acts, but wants to perform them on someone else. not specifically an a-spec term but is used more in the community

Alterous : attraction that isn’t completely platonic or romantic, somewhere in between, but still a desire for emotional closeness. used as -alterous, like -sexual or -romantic. can also experience romantic and/or platonic attraction, but feel some level of discomfort by categorizing it as fitting in those labels.

*remember, even for people who use the same label, it’s different for everyone, as are most things here! if you’re questioning and looking at this list to try and see where you fit, there’s no rush. take it slow and think about it.

feel free to add on! I’m sure I’ve missed some key terms or amazing identities because there’s so many out there and I’d love to see this post grow!!

penicillium-pusher: Simple definition posters…

penicillium-pusher:

Simple definition posters for some of the aromantic spectrum

aro-acethetic: Bi aroace + “let’s just be fri…

aro-acethetic:

Bi aroace + “let’s just be friends” for the anon!

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