Category: aromantic





The ninja turtles are aro culture, they love pizza, pizza is the aro food, wake up people. Also the ninja turtles would aboslutely kick arophobe/acephobe butts! They fight bad guys after all

im a new aro but i dont like pizza, will this be an issue?

No, if you dont like pizza as an aro the ninja turtles eat enough pizza for every aro who doesnt like pizza.


This is so so true!

As much as we feel out of the loop and different and maybe lonely (cause we’re told being in a couple is the only way to not be alone), Im so glad to not feel all of the fear that makes allos NEED to have a romantic partner to exist. It breaks my heart seeing people suffer so much because of it


Someone I’m friends with on Facebook shared an article about singleness where the author talked about how for a long period of his life he was “obsessed” with finding a partner. He would automatically “screen” every girl he met for her potential to be a match. His point in the article was that he finally realized he could be happy single and that singleness was not an inherently negative thing and also not necessarily a permanent state of being that you have to either commit to or frantically run away from (it was a Christian article, and the idea of being called to singleness/celibacy for life is a thing in Christianity).

Idk it just got me thinking how lucky we are to be aro or aroace and to have that sort of outsider perspective. I have never once “screened” someone for their potential to be my partner, and as far as I can tell this is an exceedingly common thing to do for allos. It’s this constant Awareness that Someone they meet will end up being their partner. It sounds exhausting! And like.. awkward and uncomfortable.

And also the cultural pressures to be in a relationship and get married and not be single don’t affect me nearly as much as they affect my allo friends. Yes they may affect aros in unique ways, like making us feel broken, but at least for me I’ve never felt that pressure to be in a relationship as a genuine push toward being in a relationship. I feel it more as a cultural annoyance that everyone else seems to be deeply affected by. People prioritize romantic relationships, rush into them, get engaged young, date serially, and are scared to be single because our culture tells us it’s the worst thing you could be. Maybe I’m uncommon even for an aro but I just don’t feel any of that. I feel like an outsider watching people behave in these mysterious ways and I just don’t get it, and I don’t like it when they try to force their ways of thinking onto me (trying to set me up, assuming I’m also desperate to find a partner, etc).

I also thought it was cool that a deeply Christian presumably allo dude wrote what basically amounts to a Christian take on dismantling cultural amatonormativity. He said things like don’t assume that everyone who is single is looking for someone, don’t try to set them up with all your friends, accept them into your community, and make sure when you’re single you understand that it’s ok and good and learn to love yourself and grow as a person. Given how pervasive amatonormativity is in Christian communities, it’s really cool that people still see through it.


Me whenever I hear a song using the word “love” but otherwise not being explicitly about romance, despite knowing it’s a romance song: It’s a platonic love song now 👀




I did a very quick, sketchy comic because I was extremely inspired by this post. (Credit to @pinkdiamondprince for the original post.)

The entire analogy was just fantastic and so, so accurate, and I wanted to make a comic for it, even if it’s very sketchy because my attention span is nil.

An adorable, helpful, and accurate little comic!

This is the best way to describe aro/aceness I’ve seen! Also, the cutest!










Writing a book on asexual, aromantic, and agender identity and trying to get it funded. If you help the project fund, aside from receiving a copy of the book, your name will also appear in the book. 📚

Hey y’all, this book is hanging out at 46% funded. It needs to get to 60% by the end of the month, 80% by the end of November, and 100% by the end of the year. Please boost this for more visibility, and if you have the money to spare, maybe back the project as well.

We need more resources like this in the world, and bringing this book to life can help close the current gap. I’m not affiliated with this project at all – I would just really like to see it fully funded.

Less than a month, let’s do this!!

I got mine and so should you!

Hey, it’s Asexual Awareness Week! Guess what would be a perfect way to support the ace (and aro and agender) community? Backing resources like this book!

Support this project authored by ace of color, Xicanx artist, researcher, and founder of @asexualjournal, an independent platform publishing work by asexual, aromantic, and agender authors, Michael Paramo!

Until midnight tonight (Nov 17th) if you use OVER60 promotional code provided by Unbound, you also get 10% off your pledge.
Thank you to everyone who has shared and supported this book project.

it’s 70% funded now! 10 days to get to 80%!

Pls help fund! You can get the book and a pin and stuff for the different tiers (it’s at 71% currently)


It’s okay to dislike/blacklist ships that go against your aro headcanon(s). 

It’s okay, really.

There’s so little canon aro rep, it’s not selfish to just want one thing for yourself. Fandom spaces are for everyone, and you shouldn’t have to risk your own discomfort just to interact with content you enjoy.

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Some Aromantic thoughts I had.

Aplatonic???? No friends????? Ajfjskdndjsi

Let me shut this down immediately right now, because I’m not letting this go by. You are confused, and let me explain this common misconception to you since you don’t understand. You have the right to misunderstand something and make mistakes, there’s always time to learn. But you sure as hell can’t be a ignorant, sassy or rude around me while invalidate something you clearly do not understand. That won’t get by me. Not understanding someone doesn’t mean they are wrong.

  • It’s a term for people in the a-spectrum community in anyway who need a term like this. 
  • It’s not about how someone doesn’t want any “friends.” It is not that simple, it’s just not. 
  • It’s common in the a-spec community for aromantic aces to still say they’d like a (queer/quasi)platonic/alterous (a relationship that is neither definitively romantic or sexual partner but it is distinctly platonic and intimate. Or relationship that is like a mixture of platonic and romantic, but it wouldn’t be accurate to define it as strictly one or the other.)  
  • It’s common in the a-spec community for aromantic allosexuals to view their ideal relationship as friends who they have sex with and they are close with.  
  • Aplatonic is a term meant for those aromantics on the a-spectrum who don’t desire those two things listed above. 
  • It’s also meant for aromantic who do not feel “squishes” (friend crushes) like some aromantics do. 
  • It’s common for aplatonic people to feel broken, and invalid because people who are bigoted towards their exist don’t understand them or value them, and put people who have desires for close platonic/quasiplatonic/queerplatonic/alterous, romantic and sexual relationships over them. When they don’t have any desire for close relationship or are touch aversed or intimacy aversed in any manner or it’s just not for them. 
  • Let people use language to genuinely define themselves, Let them find a sense of positivity, community, acknowledgement and validation. Not having a term for how you feel can be loathsome, invalidating and lack of a sense of belonging. Everyone deserves the access and acknowledgement to accurately define themselves. Let people have the opportunity identify with terms accurate to them. It’s up to them to identify how they want. Not us. 

Aplatonic people exist, and are valid. 

Aplatonic people are not heartless or broken.
Not understanding someone doesn’t mean they are wrong.

And what a shocker, they can have friends just like everyone else. Next question.

Aromantic bedding :0 !!!