Yo, in light of the recent discourse I want to say something:
The treatment of aros by aces is an intracommunity issue. If you’re not aspec, you do not get to criticize the ace community in this issue, and you especially do not get to use it as leverage to treat aces badly. And if any of you exclusionshits think you can use this to convince us to join you, you’re dead wrong. None of us have any delusions of bastards like you actually giving a shit about us, none of us would turn our backs on the ace community, and I hope you step on a lego and fall face first into a toilet. Thanks!
I’ve made this blog in hopes of curating a zine an by, for, and about aromantics and asexuals. Short term goal is the have a completed digital zine by the end of the year, long term goal is to make the zine serialized and eventually available in physical form.
More details about the project will be posted in the near future but for the time being I just wanted to throw a line out there and see if there are any illustrators interested in submitting comics.
Follow along to get project updates or you can message me with any questions.
In the survey, I essentially asked people who identify anywhere on the aro-spectrum/ace-spectrum to share how they feel about PDA in LGBT+ spaces because I’ve often seen non-aspec people say that aspec folks are very against PDA in LGBT+ spaces and actively try to prevent it. I’ve never personally experienced this or met anybody who has, so I made this survey to ask aspec people how they actually feel.
Here are the results so far!
Out of the 84 people who responded, nobody was against PDA in LGBT+ spaces! The majority of respondents (67.9%) say they support it.31% of respondents said they support PDA even though it makes them uncomfortable. One respondent added their own answer, “I don’t care, you do you, have fun.”
Here are some of the individual responses: Respondent 4, who identifies as arospec and asexual: “I’m uncomfortable with all kinds of PDA due to trauma, but I wouldn’t stop people from kissing/holding hands in an lgbt+ space. If it went on for more than a moment or two and I was having a really PDA-repulsed day, I’d go to the bathroom or get some water or something. If I knew I wasn’t doing so well trigger-wise that morning, I’d probably have stayed home
Respondent 7, who identifies as aromantic and asexual: “I support common acts of affection like kissing/hand holding/etc., but acts that border on sexual like intense making out/ass grabbing/etc. make me uncomfortable.”
Respondant 74, who identifies as aromantic and asexual: “I am romance/sex-repulsed personally, but obviously I would not try to make people stop, especially in a LGBTQ+ space designed to allow for PDA.”
Respondent 84, who identifies as aromantic: “romantic pda can sometimes make me feel uncomfy, but it’s usually more straight pda than gay pda, and i think gay people 100% should have a safe place for pda.“
So, there you have it, friends! 84 people is a relatively small sample size but I think the trend is clear: generally, aspec people are not against PDA in LGBT+ spaces.