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Interview: Sachin Babu

Today we’re joined by Sachin Babu. Sachin is a phenomenal author from Southern India. He writes a variety of things including poems, short stories, anecdotes, and quotes. Sachin is also a fellow fan of Edgar Allan Poe (YAY!) as well as a number of other authors. He has a site where he posts a lot of his poetry. It’s clear that Sachin is a dedicated and talented writer, as you’ll soon read. My thanks to him for taking the time to participate in this interview.


Please, tell us about
your art.

I am a writer. I write poems, short stories, quotes,
anecdotes and many more. Writing has always been my passion; it inspires me to
be a better human being than I was yesterday. I usually write stuff I feel at
that particular point of time, for example, if I am feeling happy, I write a
happy poem, if I am feeling sad, I write a sad one. I also love to read stuff
that others have written; it helps me gain a new perspective on that particular
aspect. To be honest I feel my day is incomplete if I don’t write anything at
the end of the day. For me writing is like a drug ecstasy and I am addicted to

What inspires you?

Basically, my feelings inspire me the most. I am an
introvert and writing is just a way to express what I actually am. In fact, the
randomness of life is what inspires me the most. We all have highs and lows in
the life, happy moments and sad moments, we have days where we are full of
energy and positive aura and few days we just feel tired, what I believe is we
should embrace all of that because that is what makes life adventurous. Finally
I have only one thing to say, embrace your feelings, they will inspire you to
achieve miracles.

What got you
interested in your field?  Have you
always wanted to be an artist?

Before writing poetry I used to read a lot of books. Sylvia
Plath, Maya Angelou, Edgar Allan Poe were one of my favorites, they got me
interested in writing poetry. J.K. Rowling, J.R.R. Tolkien, Stephen King etc
got me interested in writing stories. As a kid I had a very good imagination,
and once I was into my teens I decided to write and since then I never looked
back. I also feel my family and my teachers had a great influence on me. My
family appreciated art since the beginning and my teachers guided me in the
right path.    

Do you have any kind
of special or unique signature, symbol, or feature you include in your work
that you’d be willing to reveal?

I usually follow a strict rhyme pattern in my poems unlike
the modern poetry where people love free-styling. I also add my name ‘Sachin B’
at the end of poems and stories I write.

What advice would you
give young aspiring artists?

My advice is very simple, ‘go with your gut.’ Nothing and no
one should stop you to do the things you’ve always wanted to do, just believe
yourself, work hard, love what you do and most importantly do not think of the
outcome, everything will fall in its place eventually. Try to live an
adventurous life.


Where on the spectrum
do you identify?

I identify myself as a demisexual.

Have you encountered
any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field?  If so, how do you handle it?

I don’t consider it as a prejudice but people are definitely
ignorant about aces in every field. They just don’t seem to accept what we are
for some reason. In my field whenever I have written something about
asexuality, people just take offence, as if it’s some sort of sin but that
didn’t stop me from doing so, I have written a poem on asexuality recently and
I’ll keep writing, no matter what people have to say, I just don’t care, I
ignore them.

What’s the most
common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?

Asexuality is no stranger to misconceptions; I’ve
encountered many misconceptions about it. The most common ones are that
asexuality is just a phase or is a sin. People even think that person who identify as asexual can’t be in relationships.
Asexual are prudes and are afraid of sex is one misconception. The funniest one
by far is asexual can reproduce themselves.

What advice would you
give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their

I only say our orientation is valid. Asexuality is not a
phase, not a sin, and you are definitely not confused. Stay true to what you
are, they are many people like you, there’s nothing wrong with it. And most
importantly do not afraid to fall in love, have a relationship, if sex without
love is valid then love without sex is too. Be proud to be an asexual.    

Finally, where can
people find out more about your work?

You can find out more about my work on Tumblr, I have a blog
where is post almost everything I write. The blog is called at iam-pentastic.

Thank you, Sachin, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.

Interview: DarkChibiShadow

Today we’re joined by DarkChibiShadow, who also goes by DCS. DCS is a fantastic visual artist, writer, and game developer who specializes in erotica comics. They are very interested in erotica and sexuality, which informs much of their work. DCS strives to make things that everyone can enjoy, but are particularly dedicated to making things ace people can enjoy. Their stories include a wide variety of ace and aro spectrum characters. DCS also makes a copious amount of SFW comics and games as well. They have recently started SofDelux with their friend Nami, who was interviewed yesterday. The pair of them are a powerhouse, collaborating to make some truly awesome visual novels and games. It’s clear DCS is a passionate and talented artist, as you’ll soon read. My thanks to them for taking the time to participate in this interview.


Please, tell us about
your art.

Hey! I’m DCS, otherwise known as DarkChibiShadow!

When it comes to my art — it’s my life! It has been for so
long, ever since I was little.

I would say I mainly make comics with a heaping side of
visual novels right now — as well as a ton of different kinds of commissions!
I’m basically always working on something!

Right now my biggest focuses are my webcomic, Space School, and my various erotica
comics! I update both once a week; with my erotica comics rotating between a
cast of characters and stories.

Good ‘ol Space School
has been going on for a long while now — and it’s had it’s ups and downs cuz of
that. It started out as a really silly RP idea that I then grew super attached
to and wanted to make a comic of. (Little did I know at the time just how
attached I’d get, haha!)

The main character,
Zeggy, is a reflection of me as a teenager struggling to find acceptance among
people my age — I was rowdy and way outspoken about my interest in sexuality
and I think it drove some people around me batty. (Sorry everyone I hung out
Needless to say I uh, understand boundaries a lot better now and am
always glad seeing when readers of mine relate to Zeggy in the same way. Plus,
it’s got a great ‘lil ace bird boy named Joe, who is very outspoken and a lot
of fun. Oh! Alkaline (the love interest) is demisexual as well — with a
few other background characters also being on the ace spectrum but they don’t
get into it as much during the main plotline.

The comic is very old now — with the beginning being…made
by me in my late high school years; but I still love it, and want to finish it
one day even if it takes me another five years, haha.

My other passion is my Erotica Comics! They focus on a few
different stories and set of characters; and right now it’s featured me and my
girlfriend’s characters, Dennis and Booker.

I’ve made a ton of erotica comics thanks to my Patrons (Love
ya! You know who you are!)
and I’m always super excited to explore new
worlds and characters and see how they fall in love and get down ‘n dirty.

Porn and sexuality have always been a huge thing for me; and
something that I always wanted to create. There was just…not a lot of porn
out there that made me feel good — despite my interest in it. I’ve just always
wanted to create my own little corner of the internet where I could enjoy fun
porn and invite people in to enjoy with me.

I’m always really excited and happy when there’s ace people
who reach out to me and say they like my porn. Knowing my stuff can help other
ace people feels great, honestly! It’s all I ever wanted! I just want to make
stuff that’s fun and focuses on characters and romance and having a good time,
having a laugh!

Agh — if I go on I’ll definitely write a whole essay about
it. Needless to say; I really enjoy erotica and I’m passionate about making
more comfortable and fun stuff for me and my fans.

And lastly — but certainly not least — I make visual novels
now too!

I believe I started making visual novels in 2016 (around
this time of year, actually)
with some short fan-games and then went from

I had dabbled in making games a bit when I was a teenager
but never thought I would be fit for finishing any? I guess I just never thought
I’d have an idea that would fit — but once I started thinking of ideas
specifically JUST for games; it became a lot easier.

Going from comics to visual novels was actually pretty easy
since both involve lots of pictures, and lots of words — but there were
definitely things in either that were easier or harder to do depending on the

It’s only been 2 years but I’ve already released or help
release a bunch of VN’s! It’s been awesome!

The ones I’m most proud of are Tomai, Disaster Log C, and Mermaid Splash: Passion Festival!

They were all collabs and all super fun and I’m so proud of
the final product — check ‘em out if you like stuff that’s goofy, romantic, and
not-too-long, haha.

In 2018 I’m expecting to release the first of four games in
my “One-Eyed Lee” series of games, titled, “One-Eyed Lee and the
Dinner Party”
as well as helping release, A Werewolf Oppunirty, Obviously;
which has a massive 30k word count demo out right now. As you can tell by the
name, it’s a queer werewolf dating sim and it’s awesome. Check ‘em out!

And as a side note — I always try to include PG-13 options
in any game I make so that people who are not comfortable with sexual stuff can
avoid it entirely!

I’m really excited to be making visual novels and I’m pumped
to make more in the future.

Shout-out to Nami who has taught me basically all there is to know
about making games in Ren’py and is probably the sole reason I can keep making
them. Love you!!!

What inspires you?

There’s so much that inspires me! My friends, nature,
animals, mythology, games, comics, movies, shows — so much!

I’ve always been big into the look of PS2 games and am
always kind of searching to emulate that in my style — I think. Games like Shadow of the Colossus, Okage: Shadow King, the Katamari line of games, Dark Cloud, Space Channel 5, Kingdom
— all of those things really inspired me when I was young and still
continue to do so!

Right now a BUNCH of indie-games inspire me! Just seeing
other game devs go for it and make stuff is…so awesome! Whenever Nami shows
me her WIPs I always get excited to work on my own games — and vice versa! Any
game that really feels like it was made by a team or person who is really
passionate about it shine through to me so much…it’s such a good feeling!

Not to mention all of the good comics out there!

I’ve always been a huge fan of Full Metal Alchemist and for a long time Jojo’s Bizzare Adventure was a huge influence too. (I got into
it back in…2008? I think? I was a Junior in High School and BUDDY, was it
hard to get back then. Anime fans have it good right now!)

And then as I got into my twenties I finally got into One Piece and it’s soooo good! Plus it’s
great that Luffy is basically confirmed as ace-aro, hell yeah!

Other comics like Mushi-shi,
Franken Fran, Nana to Kaoru, and a hand full of smaller or one-shot comics have
also been a huge influence.

Not to mention all of the doujins and porn and movies and TV
shows I like…there’s so much!

It’s Always Sunny in
, Overwatch, a BUNCH
of documentaries — AGH! It’s just all so interesting and exciting!

Every new thing I see and learn about just gives me another
fun idea for something to work on! Again, if I keep writing I’ll never stop — there’s
too much fun stuff! It’s all so good! I’m so glad people create things!

What got you
interested in your field?  Have you
always wanted to be an artist?

I’ve always been an artist — and I don’t remember a time I
wasn’t drawing?

I’ve been making comics more “seriously” since the 5th
grade and I started posting my comics online when I was a freshmen in High
School. Back then, I had a comic I used to update every day! I don’t know how I
did it. I was wild.

For a while I wasn’t convinced I could do art full-time just
because (at the time) the internet wasn’t where it was right now for
freelancers and because so many people around me told me that being an artist
wasn’t viable.

So I originally went to community college thinking I would
maybe go abroad — but once I saw my girlfriend, Niku, going to art school and
doing her best I thought, “If I don’t at least TRY to do what I love for a
won’t I end up regretting it later on?”

So I said fuck it and started on my way to full-time art!

I was really lucky though. My parents are together still and
I’ve got a great support system of family and friends — and not to mention I
already had a following from posting my comics back in High School — so I think
the stars were just aligned for me. I’ve still got a long way to go!

I think anyone can do what I do! All it takes is working a
lot, honestly! As long as you’re finishing work and communicating with people;
I think it’s possible!

What advice would you
give young aspiring artists?

Keep at it! If you’re feeling like your art will never find
it’s audience — just keep at it!

These things take time — so much time!

I’ve struggled for so long to find people who connect with
my art, but I know even more are out there and I just gotta work even harder to
find them.

If you draw it…they will come…

You can too! You can make your thing, you can find your

Also; try not to be a perfectionist, mmkay?

Finishing your thing is more important than it being “perfect”
and often times people will not notice the flaws you do — so just look at that
finish line and get to it.

Getting your thing out there and in front of people will
make it that much easier to get working on your next project and get better and

You got this!

To inspire you, here’s some of my first Webcomic art from


Where on the spectrum
do you identify?

I am demisexual~! I also identify as queer, since it’s a
nice blanket term for “not straight” and because I’m interested in so
many types of people and bodies.

(I’m also genderfluid; but my gender has always been much
harder for me than my sexuality, ugh.)

For me– knowing a character, knowing a person is…it’s

I find myself totally not caring about a character until I
get to know them, see them, fall in love with them in a way? Then suddenly I’m SO
invested in all of the little things they might like to do in bed. Stuff I
wasn’t even remotely interested in before I can become interested in because
it’s what that character is into — and for me, that’s everything…

When I found out what being demisexual was — it was such a
relief; because it perfectly described me and how I felt towards other people
and characters. I wish I had known about it when I was a teen!

Have you encountered
any kind of ace prejudice or ignorance in your field?  If so, how do you handle it?

Hmm, in the past I’ve gotten some hate from random people
but I think every artist has that to some point. Some people just don’t like
your work and…well, that’s really that!

It sucks, and I hate it, but knowing it happens to just
about everyone makes it easier!

Otherwise — I have had people question whether “being ace
is a thing”
in terms of some of my characters; which is annoying but hey!

I’ve also seen some rather un-kind things said in articles
about ace-focused media — it sucks!

Typically I tend to keep to my own lane and just focus on my
work; that tends to be the easiest way to go about it all.

What’s the most
common misconception about asexuality that you’ve encountered?

That every ace person ever hates sex and anything to do with

Being ace, like being anything, is a spectrum! There’s a ton
of ace people who like porn and there’s a ton who don’t and I think being able
to make spaces for either is a good thing!

I’ve personally had some friends who weren’t interested in
porn at all (and were actually kind of repulsed by it) turn a new leaf
because they found out porn ISN’T ALL just the typical hentai stuff — it’s a
whole range of things! Seeing someone find their kind of porn is so sweet!

It sucks for me knowing that there are people struggling
balancing being ace with liking porn or liking sexuality — because I think
those two things can totally live in harmony!

Nothing breaks my heart like seeing someone who is ace get
asked questions like, “You still like porn? Aren’t you ace?” and “Are
you really ace if you like porn?”


I’m super interested in porn, in the sexuality of a
character — but I am just not that interested in having sex. When I’m super in
love with someone — there’s interest — but even then, not that much?!
And I think a lot of people feel this way and think maybe it’s not right?! But
it’s totally fine!

Also; it’s tough when people expect everyone who is ace to
also be aro. It’s seperate!

What advice would you
give to any asexual individuals out there who might be struggling with their

Don’t let anyone tell you it isn’t real and don’t let anyone
tell you that you can’t be loud and proud!

And don’t let anyone tell you it’s a “PHASE” either —
even if you eventually find the label isn’t for you — someone saying this to
you is bullshit!

Yell you are ace as loud as you want! Put it all over your
profile if you want — dye your hair like the ace flag — do it all! BE LOUD, BE

I’m so proud of you for being you!

Finally, where can
people find out more about your work?

I’ve got a lot of different sites — some include R18 work
and some STRICTLY DON’T so I will organize them as such down below:

SFW Art Blog
Space School Comic
Sofdelux Studio

R18 Art Blog

A mix of PG-13/R-18:
(My includes stuff that is R18 but nothing explicit is shown
and everything has a content warning before downloading.)
My Twitter
(I don’t post anything NSFW, but sometimes I like suggestive things
and with the way Twitter currently works– that can sometimes be a problem!)

Or, if you want to support me monetarily, here’s some ways!

My Erotica
My Space School Patreon My Ko-fi

Hire me for your

Any follows, reblogs, retweets, anything like that–
always help a ton and keep me making new free stuff for everyone!

Thanks a ton for reading my interview! I hope you found
something new you liked!

Thank you, DCS, for participating in this interview and this project. It’s very much appreciated.



give aces what we deserve

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Ace Valentines by the Madison Acespace members.

For your loved ones this Valentine’s Day.

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Valentines Day is coming up, so I made some Valentine’s cards for all my fellow demisexuals out there

I read your FAQ but i'm sorry i'm st…

I read your FAQ but i'm sorry i'm still not sure what I am.Im 17 and have never dated or kissed anyone, I may have a crush but idk if it's considered a whenever I see him my stomach goes nuts and i'm really shy so I don't talk to him,I find him cute and wish we could be friends and maybe date?idk what a sexual attraction is and I do want to have sex but with someone I really love? I also don't understand how people kiss and have sex with strangers??? I'm really c o n f u s e d,could you help me?

also I said I wanted to have sex with someon I truly love but i don’t care if i have or not? like lmao I want to know how it is but i’m not like crazy about it? IGH IDK WHAT I AM NOR WHAT I FEEL LMAO HELP MY POOR SOUL

I can tell you for sure, but it sounds like you do have a crush on this kid as far as I can tell.  As for your sexuality, it sounds like you might be demisexual.  Thinking that you would be fine with having sex with somebody that you really love, and being confused at how people can kiss and have sex with strangers is typically a sign of demisexuality.

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(Image description: eight pastel colored squares with text in the center. They say:

“-Genderqueer aromantics are wonderful
-Genderqueer asexuals are incredible
-Genderqueer gray-aromantics are amazing
-Genderqueer gray-asexuals are awesome
-Genderqueer arovagues are magnificent
-Genderqueer acevagues are splendid
-Genderqueer demiromantics are magical
-Genderqueer demisexuals are delightful”.)