A stands for Ally because it's there for closeted LGBT people to go to events safely. It's not about cishet allies it's for closeted LGBT people.
I disagree, and here’s why.
The definition of an Ally is someone who is supportive of LGBT people. This encompasses non LGBT people (hetero, cis) and LGBT people (ex: a Lesbian who’s supportive of the Bisexual community)
Asexuals, Aromantics, Agendered people already feel erased (oh and btw while I was doing some research last night not one did anyone say A stood for Aros or Agender. Like wtf). Not only do fellow members of the LGBT not acknowledge our identities, but most people outside our community think we’re a myth.
Pushing the term Ally to fit into the A just further pushes the rest of us out. (Btw I’m all for gay-straight alliance groups, but that’s an environment designed for both LGBT and non, and is a safe (typically) way for closeted people to enact with their community.)
Closeted people usually (forgive need if Im assuming. I had a different experience) know what they’re in the closet for. So a closeted gay man still identifies with the letter G, even if no one knows that. He doesn’t necessarily identify with the letter A.
Now if that closeted gay man does want to be an Ally and does want to help his fellow LGBT members by advocating for them? Well, he’s not going to do that by claiming the A for himself. If he really wants to be an Ally, he’ll understand who the A belongs to and not try to take that away.
(And if he is indeed closeted, then to the world it just looks like another straight person trying to shove into an LGBT safe space, and that’s not helping anyone. Especially not the As)
i’m ace, but i’m heteroromantic. I see so many people who say “if you’re heteroromantic ace/heterosexual aro you’re basically straight and aren’t lgbt+” and it’s gotten to the point I feel like I have no right to comment on matters of the lgbt+ community and like i’m not valid enough to say that i’m lgbt+ but I also can’t call myself straight bc I don’t want sex. ugh this is frustrating…
Hey friend! Being ace/heteromantic/heterosexual aro is quite a limbo that is hard to work around with people are outside the community. You completely have a right to talk about issues within the LGBT+ community! It’s still your community! Asexuality, aro, etc. is in the LGBT+ community and matters just as much as the rest of the orientations.