So I know it can be hard to find good original m/m specifically by category. Some publishers offer tagging systems and some don’t.
QueerRomanceInk is a database (free for readers) that allows you to search original published m/m by a lot of different categories, including orientations like asexual and non-binary, tropes and potential trigger warnings. It’s very fandom friendly re: search parameters.
It’s gaining momentum in the m/m world and will be very helpful given so much quality m/m is actually self-published these days and therefore very hard to find (especially given the implosion of Riptide Publishing in the meantime).
But it’ll only get better if folks check it out! So if you’re someone who is interested in having a place to have a to-be-read and favourite authors list, get notifications for books on sale and new books by fave authors, and don’t want the entrenched drama that is GoodReads, I highly recommend you check it out!
Excited to announce that the pride dice range is all restocked, including a new line of Pan pride dice! Every set is slightly unique and stock is very limited so get ‘em before they’re gone ♥
In the Closet
When it came to the word “gay”, my neighborhood was pretty conservative. I grew up in Catholic schools, and not much was discussed about the topic of homosexuality. All I was ever told by my ever-accepting teachers was that it was okay nowadays to be gay; the person just couldn’t act on it. Then it would be a sin. Being thirteen years old and discovering online pornography for the first time, I had no idea how to come out of my teens without causing myself eternal damnation.
I separated myself from homosexuality as far as I could when I got to high school. I was tired of feeling different than everyone else and I just wanted to belong. I walked with my legs farther apart, and I made sure I didn’t talk with limp wrists. I agreed when people when they said math class was gay, or that someone else was a “fag”.
The closet was killing my spirit. But it was either keep up the charade or disappoint my parents; my dad, who made fun of transgender people and feminine gay men regularly, and my mom who just wasn’t buying that bisexuality stuff. I was gonna have a wife and naturally born children if it killed me.
This all ended of course, when I met Derrick.
My First Boyfriend
My best friend (who I knew wanted to date me) had introduced the two of us in my last year of high school. Derrick was…..
A Zine On Asexuality
“Taking The Cake” is an illustrated zine and 101 about asexuality, created by Maisha in 2012. It includes the basic definitions, some of the nuances of asexuality, explains the types of attraction that exist (not all attraction is sexual), dispels myths, includes resources and takes on the topic of whether asexuality is included in the queer community or not. Some say no, some say yes. Anyway, very helpful information and the artwork is exquisite. You see that Black woman on the cover! ♥♠
hello! Would anyone be interested in supporting us? We are going to be selling our shirts for $25.00. Please message me if you are!
The back of the shirts say supporter on them!
Hey guys so there’s this really cool group of people attempting to start up something called “The Normal Project,” which will be a safe space for members of the LGBTQIA+ community. The first issue of their magazine comes out in January, and it would be super neat if y’all would help support them! Their website is https://thenormalproject.me/the-magazine/ and you can find them here on Tumblr @thenormmagazine. In addition to a magazine, they will be doing tons of other cool things like selling merch (such as the T-shirt idea above) and opening a discussion forum on their site. Once again, this is by members of the LGBTQIA+ community, for the LGBTQIA+ community. Please please please support these awesome people and help get their project up and running! 🙂
Hi could 2018 PLEASE be the year where everyone stops acting like all asexual and aromantic people are just “straight” people trying to encroach on gay and lesbian spaces because that is so fucking far from the truth
First of all y’all are acting like ace and aro people can’t also be gay/bi/pan or whatever at the same time when very many of us indeed actually are and guess what? A lot of us are also trans and non-binary as well!
And in the same way that being gay can affect your experiences as a trans person and vice versa, being aro or ace can also play a role in other aspects of your gender or sexuality. There’s intersectionality with being ace in the same way that there’s intersectionality between other identities.
So even if you don’t think asexuality and aromanticness are LGBT+ for whatever bunk-ass reason, those identities still sure as hell can play a role in the LGBT+ experience for many different people
And if an ace or aro person isn’t attracted to the same sex or they aren’t under the trans umbrella guess what That person is STILL a sexual/romantic minority because they still deviate from society’s default of a person being both sexually and romantically attracted to the opposite sex exclusively- because there’s no attraction to speak of.
Yeah we may not face the same backlash from society that a non-cis or non-het person would for our asexual/aromantic identity exclusively, but since when was being LGBT+ defined by how much you suffer? I don’t know about you, but as both an asexual and as a non-binary person, or even as a mixed-race individual, having my validity be measured by what level of suffering I face seems really shitty and inaccurate.
As sexual and romantic minorities making up the LGBT+ community, we are not going to be the same and we are not all going to have the same experiences. Even between people who identity the same as us (remember that intersectionality I talked about?). Our identities aren’t a contest. We shouldn’t treat them like one. If an ace person doesn’t have the same experiences as you who cares, well duh.
You know what? This doesn’t even apply to just ace and aro people. This can be said about bi people, pan people, gay people, trans people, non-binary people, intersex people, poly people, anyone in the LGBT+ community. We aren’t all going to share experiences, or always have things in common. But that doesn’t mean that we can’t have solidarity with each other despite that.
If someone feels safe being in a particular space, why act like you need to kick them out? Especially since however they identify probably isn’t affecting or hurting you personally. Ace and aro people aren’t actively trying to ruin everything in the LGBT+ community for you. And if you feel that way about an ace or aro person you come across, then it’s probably on the individual and not the community as a whole.
And even if after everything I just said, you still want to be an exclusionist, then at least take away from this that when a person says they are ace or aro, you shouldn’t make assumptions about them right away. Whether you like it or not, some ace people just are LGBT+.
Being aspec doesn’t make you lesser! 💜💚
a bunch of moms are making letters+audio recordings of affirming, validating letters to queer/trans* people who don’t get that kind of support from their moms
i would say more about it but
im kind of busy in this puddle of tears on the floor so
In case any of my followers don’t have this kind of support from home…