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Hullo! I’m the creator of the “gonna ace this” shirt :D you tagged it with #I WOULD BUY THIS so I thought I’d let you know that the design is for sale on my Redbubble! (Link in my blog description ❤)

https://www.redbubble.com/people/phoenixtcm 

I’m definitely going to buy one! I love the design:)

-Sarah

I identify as asexual, asexual meaning no sexual attraction, but I’m not to sure what sexual attraction is??? For example, I can look at a male, female or whoever and find them good looking, attractive. But is that the same thing as sexual attraction??? What is the difference????

It sounds like you’re talking about aesthetic attraction, which is generally defined as the appreciation of someone’s appearance. It’s very much different from sexual attraction!

I’m aromantic, but I enjoy reading about romance and love songs, as long as they’re not sexual or too graphic. Is that a thing?

Yep! the only “requirement” for identifying as aro is to, well, identify as aro. It doesn’t matter what you enjoy, because action is separate from attraction

-Sarah

I FINALLY CAME OUT TO MY MOM AS ASEXUAL AND SHE RESPONDED PRETTY MUCH WITH “SAME TBH” AND IT WAS SO GREAT SO NOW WE’RE BOTH ASEXUAL AS FUCK AND IT’S AWESOME

I’m so happy for you!! 

-Sarah

Where can i get more info about qprs? I know the basics of it, but im interested in having one in the future, and am afraif of misconceptions. Thanks!

@theqppofqpps is a great place to start! 

-Sarah

So, I’m pretty sure I’m ace, but the main question is, how do I know what sexual attraction is? I have friends who have told me that there are times, especially at the time in their cycle when they are at peak fertility, that they feel a desire to have sex and I don’t think I’ve ever experienced that, the only time I feel different in my cycle is when my period starts, but that’s typical, I feel lots of pain and have way to many emotions to deal with, but that’s it. Does that make me ace? Thanks

It sounds like you could be ace, or just have a low sex drive. Either way, you are very much welcome to identify as ace if you feel it’s a good fit for you!

-Sarah

I just want to tell you how i came out to my best friend for the first time as ace. We were taking the bus home from school this january, and i just wanted to come out and be done. I had been so stressed for six month by keeping it in. So i told her that I am ace. And she looked at me and said; I am too. I have never felt so relived in my life. I just wanted to share it and i really like how the whole situation went. Have a nice day :)

Isn’t it strange how aspec people manage to find each other before knowing the other is aspec? It’s like we’ve all got this superpower, and it’s super awesome. I’m so happy your coming out went well! Keep on being awesome:)

-Sarah

Thoughts about simply_kenna’s asexuality video?

(Here’s the video for anyone who wants to see it) I think it was very honest. I really liked how she kept stressing that it’s all up to personal experience and didn’t make it seem like you have to be a certain way (robotic, for example) to identify as aro/ace. Although, she does mention that she wouldn’t date anyone because she is aroace, and while that’s totally valid, it does imply that no aromantic asexual person would ever date anyone which isn’t true at all. She also doesn’t mention that aromanticism and asexuality are on a spectrum and says that if you experience any romantic or sexual attraction at all, you are not aro or ace. This is misinformation that I’m sure she didn’t know she was giving, but it still can be considered harmful to the community. I think everything else is very well presented, I just wish she’d mention that asexuality and aromanticism are two different identities and not every aromantic person is asexual and not every asexual person is aromantic. 

-Sarah 

Hi! So I created a blog to start organizing an aro/ace fanfic secret santa. The blog is called tales-from-aroland, so if you don’t mind could you please give it a shout-out? I think it’d be something really fun to do! Right now I just got a v short survey up to get ideas of how to run this (first time I’m organizing an internet event so it’ll be interesting!!) But I’m thinking of opening up sign-ups some time next week if enough people are interested :D

This is awesome!! Big shout out to @tales-from-aroland! Thank you so much for doing this, I’m very excited to see what comes from this! 

-Sarah

What’s an ace/aro ring?

An ace ring is a black ring usually worn on the right middle finger of a person on the asexual spectrum. It’s a subtle way to show pride, and it helps ace people find each other. An aro ring serves the same purpose, except it’s white and usually worn on the left middle finger rather than the right

-Sarah