Two friends of mine are writing a book on Aro/ace topics. They’ve already got a publishing company, but they need some help to cover printing costs. It’d be awesome if you could share the link around and donate if you’ve got some spare change (though this book will be in German)
I wanted to ask this blog because I know you’ve got some German mods.
Anyways, here’s the link
Thanks so much!
Thready To Go has some more inclusive patches to help celebrate your pride! With more coming on the way, the money is going towards my ability to get top surgery and a three wick candle so it’s going to a good cause!
All the patches are made using hand embroidery and are iron on patches to make it easier for you to put on! If you don’t see your flag or a version of a flag you like you just have to ask and I’ll make it!
There are so many more designs in store and I’m open to commissions as well! If you’re into inclusive, trans made products then check out the store!
Jeez, how does anyone come out with being Ace? Seriously, though? I mean, my parents are pretty conservative and basically Jewish (there’s not really a name for us so just go with it), so I’m terrified they’ll find out. Ugh, I just watched Love, Simon (great movie, very cute) and my family is like the opposite of Simon’s.
I have an older brother and we’ve only gotten along since he moved out earlier this year because of issues in our mutual past (not gonna go into it). My twin is the only person I’ve come out to, and she was surprised by the whole thing.
My parents are an entirely different subject. My mom could run the Conservative party, she is the least liberal person I have ever met. Ever. She says I can talk to her about anything, but I also have anxiety and depression. I once tried to explain about an anxiety attack I had in front of her and she told me I was just overwhelmed and there was no need to define it as mental illness. Oh, my dad? Yeah, you know how people talk about the one time they’ve seen their dad cry? Yeah — I’m not one of those people. To my knowledge, my dad has never cried (however, my parents don’t tell me anything anyway, so…). My dad is just as conservative as my mom, but don’t start an argument with him — you will lose. It doesn’t even matter that you have a fantastic argument that is cool/collected and possess all the facts and my dad’s is literally jut saying “well, that’s not what I believe, so it can’t be true” (not that his arguments are anything like that), you will lose. I cannot explain how you lose, but you do. My dad has never lost an argument with anyone who has ever disagreed with him and, if you keep it up, He. Will. End. You. Until. You. Fold. Or have to leave and forget the argument entirely or until you meet again and decide
poorlyto start it up again, whichever comes first.
My favorite part in Love, Simon wasn’t the ending or the acceptance from his family, it was when Simon came out at Christmas. I know that sounds weird, but I liked how real it was. Simon was so terrified of his parents reaction, he couldn’t look at anything but the floor. I know that people can’t hide forever, but I wish there was a way to come out without people freaking out. My only console is that I’m heteromantic and that might ease the blow.
And on top of the anxiety of my parents finding out, I’m afraid I’ll never find anyone. I mean, hell, I was terrified I wasn’t gonna find anyone before I realized I was Ace and know that fear has more than tripled. My whole life I have wanted to be somebody’s someone, and have a family, and be “most awesome mom on the block”, but I never realized until a few weeks ago that I could never see myself doing any of that with sex in the picture. And I was doing the math the other day (literally), and how the hell am I gonna find a guy who is okay with sex being at least mostly off the table, exclusive, in whatever-you-call-my-religion, and my own version of Mr. Right??
(Math Time people) There’s (at most) 76 million people on the planet who are Ace, let’s assume 40% are male (though it’s probably less), giving us about 30,400,000 men in the world who are Ace. My religion is weird/scarce so let’s assume that .5% are in my religion (though I’m probably being too generous), giving me a potential 152,000 Aces that are my-religion worldwide. Let’s assume that 60% are between the ages of 14 and 28, leaving me with 91,200 eligible males worldwide and (assuming 30% live in the USA) 27,360 potential Mr. Rights that I may actually meet. I have met less than 300 males in my age range (never mind my religion or Ace status) and I would bet money that less that .0001% are within shouting distance of the LGBTQ+ radar, never mind Asexuality.
Anyway, sorry for the long rant, but if you’ve happened to read to the end of this, any suggestions (coming out, anti-stress, etc.), questions, comments, or concerns? Here’s a potato: (or there)
I already contacted the person myself and talked to them but more opinions or advice would be very appreciated <3<3<3
Saw this and cracked up ‘cause all I could think was “my kinda roll”
So since it’s pride month, I made myself a little asexual/aromantic flag
Mod Fiona: This is delightful I love it!
This is a poem that I wrote that will be in my book when I finish writing it and is about my asexuality, encountering acephobia from a classmate, and me trying to communicate that platonic love, is a thing and that it can be just as powerful and important, if not more so, as romantic or sexual love, and also my relationship with my friends. I want people to understand that there are many kinds of love. All of them being valid and beautiful.
A boy in my class told a tale of how he and another made love in their kitchen
How together they blended peach and banana into a sultry smoothie
How they knocked everything off the countertops
Made a huge mess that they had to clean up later
I told him of how I too made love in my kitchen
With a group of my friends
How we made pesto sauce with heavy whipping cream
to put on our asparagus and tortellini
Unlike you, I left my mess
I left everything on the counters;
because I was too lazy to clean it up
I know, I’m dirty
My love isn’t at all like his
It isn’t chocolate covered strawberries
It’s more of a ripe, red tomato
My love isn’t kept for a special someone
My love is to be shared with all of my friends
My friends and I
We’re about that tough love
Together we sprouted from the dirt
We’re crisp and cool
The cream of the crop
Call us the cabbage patch kids
Our love is ingrained and deep rooted
Without romance, just romaine
We’re peas in a pod
Not horny, just corny
We Netflix and Chill in the best way,
like the couch potatoes that we are
We cut it up in the garden
We turnip to our own beet
Our friendship flourishes under the sun
Our love a sweet potato so sweet
The boy in my class told me that I am a prude prune
That my kind of love isn’t the real kind of love
That it’s not fervent, not fruitful
Told me that there should be an apple of my eye
That I should want to peel its skin and juice it
That I am condemning myself to the life of a lonely lemon
There’s no need to be such a rutabaga
I yam who I yam
And while there’s no apple for my eyes,
My friends are the tomato in my chest
They are my garden,
And when you have a garden, you are never alone
My love is the real dill
And if you can’t see that,
Then maybe you should get to know a carrot or two
And here’s some food for thought
Lettuce toss our salads in our own way
Love isn’t always like an orchard
Not always picked and peeled fruit
Not always plowed earth and planted seed
Sometimes love is like my kind of love
Inviting friends over for dinner
Sitting at a table spread with fresh produce
Enamored by everyone’s 24 carrot smiles
Not wanting to eat anything
Thank you, if you’ve read this. I’m quite new to the writing world and I accept criticism and suggestions.
Before I realized I was ace I had this dream and it wasn’t until after I learned what ace was and that I was ace that looking back at what I wrote down made me go “huh. Okay. This makes so much more sense now.”
I was on holiday and saw this little boy walking in front of me. I thought I imagined things and then realised that he really did wear a jacket with the aromantic flag as its colours.